"I'm a recovering perfectionist and a practicing good-enoughist." Brene Brown
Have you ever heard the saying, "Every little bit adds up"? I'm sure you have at some point during your life, but have you really though about what it means and how such a simple little phrase can change everything!
25 years ago, had you told me, that every time I choose to pause and be mindful and practice self-care, I am actually doing more for myself, than trying to complete hours daily, failing at keeping said hours, then giving up all together, because as a perfectionist - it's all or nothing, right?!
So thinking to myself...
"Oh, yeah, if I can do just 10 minutes of exercise today, and 3 minutes of meditation I'm good, 13 minutes of self-care is better than nothing, right?" I would have laughed and thought it absolutely had to be all or nothing, because that's the way it's supposed to be to get the results that I wanted. I wanted to be perfect, in every way, physically, mentally, spiritually, I thought in order to succeed at life and get everything that I wanted I just needed to be perfect, and that meant doing everything I thought I needed to do, to be perfect.
Flash forward 25 years, if I could say anything to myself 25 years ago, it would be...
"You're perfect just as you are, you are good enough right now."
The pressure that would have taken off, I gave up on several self-care tools in my late 20's early 30's all because I couldn't do them perfectly, I couldn't devote hours a day to my self-care any longer, I was a busy working mom of 2 and a wife, I didn't have time to take care of myself, I had more important things to do and focus on, it was selfish of me to think I could have hours a day to myself!
"Self-care is not self-fish"
Not once did I think, what if I did what I could, when I could, wouldn't that help?!
The lifestyle culture around me at the time was one of do do do, it wasn't about self-care it was about doing as much as possible, like everyone else, we were so busy doing, taking care of ourselves wasn't an option, unless you were young and single and had oodles of time.
Well, I'm here to tell you, that it's not true!
That with minutes a day, you can truly make a huge difference mentally, physically, spiritually, improving your quality of life.
Here are a few ideas for getting in those self-care minutes:
1 minute of mindfulness
3 minutes of breathing
5 minutes of meditation
10 minutes of yoga
15 minutes of weights/cardio
20 minutes of walking
It's really easy to get discouraged when we can't do that 60 minute workout or 45 minute yoga class or 30 minutes of meditation, but giving up on it all together isn't the answer, because even a few minutes everyday will add up and make a difference and over time, it will make a huge difference and can ultimately be life changing, with just a few minutes here and there!
So don't give up, you're worth carving out a few minutes in the morning or at lunch or in the afternoon or before bed, to nourish your mind, move your body, and fuel your soul.
"Strive for progress not perfection"
Remember it's not about perfection, it's about progress, and that every lil bit really does add up!
Conscious Positive Living